Two hearts connect when communication becomes a bridge rather than a barrier.
When ego, pride, unforgiveness, bitterness, and strife stand in the space between two hearts, they create walls that make connection difficult.
But when these things are surrendered and put to death, communication becomes a bridge, one that allows love, understanding, grace, and joy to flow freely between two people.
Just as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for her, husbands and wives are called to love one another with the same spirit of selflessness and sacrifice.
When pride gives way to humility, unforgiveness to grace, and strife to peace, two hearts can find their way back to each other.
“Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her.” — Ephesians 5:25
Ephesians 2:14 KJV – For He is our peace, who hath made both one, and hath broken down the middle wall of partition between us;
Love does not build walls; it builds bridges.
However, when Christ is at the center, communication can become the bridge that joyfully reconnects two hearts.
COMMUNICATION: A TOOL TO A FLOURISHING AND GREAT MARRIAGE!!!
LET US REFLECT ON THIS SCRIPTURES
“He who answers a matter before he hears it,
It is folly and shame to him.” – Proverbs 18:13
Proverbs 18:21 KJV – Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof
“A word fitly spoken is like apples of gold In settings of silver – Proverbs 25:11
19 So then, my beloved brethren, let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath;
20 for the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God – James 1:19-20
Ephesians 4:32 KJV – 32 And be ye kind one to another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, even as God for Christ’s sake hath forgiven you.
WHY COMMUNICATION IS IMPORTANT IN MARRIAGE
Communication is the process of sharing our concerns, likes and dislikes through words, signs, gestures and other forms that one’s spouse can understand.
For Ean effective Communication, Know and understand each other well. Amos 3:3
- It allows us to share our joy and disappointment
- Express our needs and expectations
- To solve problems
- To build trust and intimacy
- Build and support each other
- Solve conflict
- Plan the family and future of the family
- It helps us to grow up spiritually,physically and psychologically
FUNDAMENTAL TRUTH
Communication is the exchange of information thoughts, feelings and meaning between people through appropriate channels in order to achieve understanding and desired purposes.
FEATURES OF COMMUNICATION
- It is an exchange ie. one talks and one listens
- It involves information.
- it may be communicated consciously or unconsciously.
- It requires appropriate methods.
- Different situations require different approaches.
- A loving touch may communicate comfort when words are inadequate
- It has a purpose.
- We do not communicate merely because we have words.
WHY SPOUSES MUST COMMUNICATE
- To love one another
- Make decisions
- Solve problems
- Raise children
- Plan the future
- Strengthen the relationship
COMMUNICATION MODEL
Sender: Person who initiates the message
Message: Idea being communicated
Medium : Means through which the message is delivered
Receiver :The one who receives and interprets the message
Feedback : The response to the message
Key word: Communication is not controlled by the speaker alone.
- We don’t assume in marriage, we clarify.
TYPES OF COMMUNICATION
- Verbal communication: involves the use of spoken words and even sound.
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LESSONS FROM HHC MARRIAGE SCHOOL
BY HHC MARRIAGE COUNSELLORS
HOLY HILL CHAPEL AG, GHANA
