- The Soft Power of Emotional Intelligence and Self-Control
A woman should not be controlled by her emotions. She must learn to manage anger, disappointment, frustration and excitement.
Not every provocation deserves a reaction.
Scriptures:
- Proverbs 16:32 – “He that is slow to anger is better than the mighty; and he that ruleth his spirit than he that taketh a city.”
- Proverbs 25:28 – A person without self-control is like a city broken down without walls.
Soft power: The ability to govern yourself even when circumstances are difficult.
- The Soft Power of Graceful Communication
A woman’s words can heal, encourage, correct, inspire and restore.
She should understand that the way she communicates is just as important as what she communicates.
Scriptures:
- Proverbs 15:1 – “A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.”
- Colossians 4:6 – “Let your speech be always with grace, seasoned with salt…”
Soft power: The ability to use words to influence hearts and create peace.
- The Soft Power of Discernment
A wife should have the ability to distinguish between good and evil, to figure out the motives of people, genuine or ulterior, deception, genuine opportunities or distractions.
She knows not everyone deserves access to their marital life( sharing information, updates on the affairs of the home etc).
Scriptures:
- Proverbs 2:11 – “Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee.”
- Matthew 10:16 – “Be ye therefore wise as serpents, and harmless as doves.”
Soft power: The ability to see beyond appearances and make wise decisions.
- The Soft Power of Patience
Patience allows a woman to navigate difficult seasons without making destructive decisions out of frustration.
It is the ability to trust God’s timing while remaining responsible and intentional as a wife.
Scriptures:
- Ecclesiastes 7:8 – “The patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit.”
- Galatians 5:22 – Patience is a fruit of the Spirit.
Soft power: The ability to remain composed while waiting for the right time.
- The Soft Power of Silence and Restraint
There is wisdom in knowing when not to speak.
A woman does not have to explain herself to everyone, participate in every argument or respond to every criticism.
Silence, however, should never be used to tolerate abuse or conceal wrongdoing.
Scriptures:
- Proverbs 17:27 – “He that hath knowledge spareth his words…”
- Ecclesiastes 3:7 – “A time to keep silence, and a time to speak.”
Soft power: The ability to exercise restraint instead of allowing every situation to provoke you.
Written by LADY PHEBE KEKELI DEWODO – Convener of Queens Antidote Conference & Woman Extraordinaire Community
