BUILDING A HOME WITH A GODLY SOFT POWER ~ PART 1
As Proverbs 14:1 says:
“Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
The condition of a home can reflect the wisdom, values, and commitment of those who build it.
Drawing from the wisdom I have gathered from a revered mother in the faith, counsellors with proven marriages and personal reflection, I have come to understand that a wife’s accountability is reflected in how she nurtures, manages, and cultivates the atmosphere within her home.
Yesterday, during Marriage School, my spiritual mother, LP Mrs. Patience Ketura Bempah, made a remarkable statement that highlighted an important truth: A wife plays a significant role in building her home alongside her husband through her wisdom, care, stewardship, and nurturing spirit.
This brings us to an important conversation: What is Godly Soft Power, and how does a woman exercise it to build, nurture, and strengthen her home?
WHAT IS GODLY SOFT POWER?
In the Bible, a woman’s soft power is the Godly influence, strength of character, wisdom, grace, and inner beauty that enable her to influence her home, marriage, relationships, community and generation without relying on force, manipulation, or intimidation.
A home is more than a physical structure; it is a place where love, peace, respect, wisdom, discipline, and godly values should flourish.
However, building a home is a shared responsibility between husband and wife, but let’s explore the virtues that cultivate a woman’s queenly nature and empower her to embody true royalty.
WHAT ARE THE BIBLICAL SOFT POWER A WIFE SHOULD POSSESS
- The Soft Power of Wisdom
A wise woman knows what to say, when to speak, when to remain silent and how to handle situations without creating unnecessary conflict.
She does not react to everything; she responds with understanding.
Scriptures:
- Proverbs 14:1 – “Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands.”
- Proverbs 31:26 – “She openeth her mouth with wisdom; and in her tongue is the law of kindness.”
Soft power: The ability to build rather than destroy through wisdom.
- The Soft Power of Spirituality and Prayer
A woman’s greatest strength is not merely her appearance, intelligence or connections; it is her relationship with God.
A praying woman develops spiritual sensitivity, faith and strength to navigate life’s challenges.
Scriptures:
Esther 4:16 KJV
Go, gather together all the Jews that are present in Shushan, and fast ye for me, and neither eat nor drink three days, night or day: I also and my maidens will fast likewise; and so will I go in unto the king, which is not according to the law: and if I perish, I perish.
- 1 Thessalonians 5:17 – “Pray without ceasing.”
- Luke 18:1 – Jesus taught that people ought always to pray and not faint.
- Proverbs 31:30 – “A woman that feareth the LORD, she shall be praised.”
Soft power: The ability to draw strength, direction, and wisdom from God.
- The Soft Power of Confidence and Self-Worth
A Godly woman must understand her identity and value in God.
She does not need to compete with other women, beg for validation, or compromise her values to gain acceptance.
Scriptures:
- Proverbs 31:25 – “Strength and honour are her clothing; and she shall rejoice in time to come.”
- Psalm 139:14 – “I am fearfully and wonderfully made.”
Soft power: The ability to walk confidently in your God-given identity.
Written by LADY PHEBE KEKELI DEWODO – Convener of Queens Antidote Conference & Woman Extraordinaire Community
