Colossians 3:13 Forbearing one another, and forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do ye.
Colossians 3:14 And above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness.
Forgiveness is an act of pardoning an offender.
Releasing someone from punishment.
Forgiveness in marriage means no longer holding offense against your spouse.
Do not repay anyone evil for evil.
2 Corinthians 5:13-15, 1 John 2:6, Ephesians
Forgiveness is a command from God.
Colossians 3:13, Matthew 18:
Forgive 70 times 7
Ephesians 4:32
Your love and commitment to each other will be tested, overcome the test through forgiveness.
It’s a choice that washes you clean off pain and bitterness(forgiveness)
Communication is key, offenses should be communicated.
Forgiveness allows God to be the judge. Romans 12:19-21
Taking the laws into your hands is sin. Forgive always.
Importance Of Forgiveness
1. It breaks barriers created. (Cold War- affects bond)
2. It helps us to deal with offenses.
3. We show God’s love around us. Isaiah 1:3
Forgive and handle your issues so it doesn’t go out there.
Couples should love each other though confessions and forgiveness.
A happy marriage is a union Between two forgivers.
For a successful romantic life you need forgiveness.
Talk about the issues to mend things.
Offenses create resentments.
Forgiveness strengthens bond when issues are solved rightly.
Apologize if your spouse request for it.
WHAT FORGIVENESS IS NOT
1. Forgiveness is not a feeling. Because it will never happen.
Forgiveness is a decision.
Forgiveness is a step of obedience.
2. Forgiveness is not pretending.
Is not condoning with the wrong.
3. Forgiveness is not forgetting.
4. Forgiveness is not getting even.
5. Forgiveness is not justice.
Forgive if remorse is not shown.
Forgiveness is about changing the future not the past.
It doesn’t automatically build/restore trust.
Trust is based on evidence of change.
Trust is restored by offenders behavior, therefore the offender should be ready to find measures to rebuild trust when forgiven.
A marriage without trust is not marriage.
ACTIONS TO BE TAKEN
1. Acknowledge you are hurt.
2. Ask for Grace to be able to forgive.
3. Talk about it, pray about it.
4. Make a commitment to forgive.
Not a cover up.
5. Imagine on the other side.
SPEAKER
Mrs Attakomah
Counselor and CEO of Happy Bloomers School